Envy
Call me weird, but I don’t believe in Envy. Well More like, I don’t think Envy should exist.
Envy is an Interesting and yet Dark emotion, and we have lots of philosophical and Biblical phrases to explain and erase Envy.
“Grass is always greener on the other side” - Does this ring a bell?
Oh and Don’t forget about the Green Eyed Monster of Jealousy.
But the Truth is, we don’t need Big Scary Monsters and Complex Metaphors from the Bible and Idiot’s Guide to Philosophy to cure Envy.
All we need to do is Respect and Throw away Our Ego.
It seems that Ever since the Dawn of Civilization, us Men have gotten into our Thick Skull that Defeat is only redeemable by death. And that Being a Man is all about trampling over your Enemy and reaching for the Top.
But I don’t see it that way. Accepting Defeat isn’t failing. Its another Lesson Learned.
If you are Jealous of someone who is better than you, You shouldn’t resent them, but give respect. Congratulate them on their victory.
There will be always someone who is better than you. This is a fact and you can’t do anything to change it. Its just how the world works.
I remember in Middle School, other kids would call me a Saint because I was never jealous. The truth is, I was jealous. I was really good at hiding it because instead of resenting others, I congratulated them and showed respect for being better.
We [Human Beings] are a Proud race. And there is nothing wrong with being prideful, but too much of anything can hurt. Too much pride will have its consequences.
Accepting defeat is being a sissy?
No. Its just being a good sport. Giving respect to those who deserve, isn’t being a sissy. In fact, resenting and whining about your defeat sounds more like a sissy. Throw away your selfish Ego. Its not that difficult.
Quoting Samurai Champloo Episode 3
“Anger only gives further rise to Anger, Its a never ending cycle”
Learn from your defeat.
There is a lesson hiding in every defeat and every win.
By throwing away our Ego and Paying Respects to those who have manged to achieve more than us. We can end the Never Ending Cycle of Anger, Hatred, and Resentment.
Ego
Merriam-Webster Online defines common sense as beliefs or propositions that most people consider prudent and of sound judgment, without reliance on esoteric knowledge or study or research, but based upon what they see as knowledge held by people “in common”.
Ever met someone who You thought lacked Common Sense?
I have met couple of people like that, but my conclusion is that, its not that they lack Common Sense, but they have too much Ego.
Their Ego over shadows common sense.
Thats what I like to think, because I dont think its possible for anyone to not have Common Sense.
Its Ego and Pride that makes most people do evilest deeds and make stupidest decisions.
Now if you are fortunate to not have met people who have too much Ego, this post will tell you my experiences with people like that.
These people would make comments that makes no sense and when you try to correct them, they lash out at you or just ignore you.
These people would even disregard an advice from professionals, if Jesus was here, these people would ignore Jesus’s advice and go about doing things their own way.
And when you provide evidence that prove them wrong, they would call you a fraud, con artist, and other nasty things and provide a preposterous argument to prove you wrong or prove themselves right.
These traits are what makes them look like they dont have any Common Sense.
Why or How can you ignore an advice from a professional? Professionals are people who were trained to give advice or deal with the problems you have in certain field. If you ignore an advice or help from a professional, where are you gonna go for help/advice?
Couple of people I know:
1) He is sort of a type of a guy that would do or plan to do something absurd, when we [his friends] step in to prevent him doing something like that, he ignores us. For an Example: If he was planning a trip to Iraq, we would come in and tell him about the dangers he will face and advice him not to go. But he would ignore us and go anyways and probably get kidnapped or murdered.
Unfortunately for him, after years of trying to set him on the right path, many of us gave up. Because he won’t let go of his pride and ego. He somehow got it into his head that his sole purpose on planet Earth is to be better than anyone, especially his friends who were trying to help him. Just couple weeks ago, we invited him to a little social gathering among friends and he indirectly stated this: “You guys should be honored that I am hanging out with you guys, because without me, all of you would be bored to death.”
2) Second one is sort of a guy that would Fall in Love with something [mainly brands i.e. Sony, Apple, etc] and would defend that something by coming up with preposterous excuses. For an Example: Lets say he has a Ford [car] and loves it, one day he come across a video of a race between Ford and Honda and Ford loses. He would then say things like how Honda cheated because the driver started before the green light or something like that even though there is a staggering amount of evidence to prove that it was a fair Race.
Because of his Pride and Ego for things he own, he would argue with everyone who doesn’t agree, and because he also thinks he need to be better than anyone, he would look down upon people who are less fortunate then he was. Due to his inability to look at things from different point of view and his tendency to look down on others [including his friends], many of us got fed up and don’t bother with him any more.
There is a lesson here for everyone to learn: There is always a limit.
We say “Patience is virtue” but Patience and Virtue themselves have a limit.
People won’t waste time with those who are unwilling to change for good, and always argue against those who are willing to help.
Sometimes we just have to get our Ego and Pride go and accept help from whatever form and where ever it comes from, because in difficult times, every little bit counts.
